Dont say she has no professional training but he worked his way up. The "Ban Bossy Campaign" led by Sheryl Sandberg (COO of Meta Platforms Inc, formerly Facebook, Founder of LeanIn.org) in 2014 criticises the word 'bossy' to describe Assertive Girls and Women . I feel that this may be an integral part of homo sapiens behaviour. Or should that be EXicon? 2. If youre still adding, then on medical terms that should be reclaimed, then hysterectomy is top of my list. By the way, I have my own personal experience of this subtly denigrating language, and sadly most of it was aimed at my by people I should be able to call my nearest and dearest my family, friends and workplace colleagues. Why is it when a woman is strong and advocates her rights as an equal human men automatically are threatened and attempt to gaslight.? Career woman (have you heard of career men? women who want careers, not kids). There is a whole glossary of terms that are utilised linguistically to denigrate women. Males were created good; females were created bad. (No, its not because I didnt ask for a raise, I did- he didnt have to, it was just offered to him because he had/has potential.) Theres nothing wrong withbeing bubbly, but if its a word used to underestimate and undervalue womens other qualities, maybe its one to relegate. Junk in the trunk 2023. It is patronising, presumptuous and insulting to dismiss a womans argument or behaviour by blaming it on her biology. Im going to link this on a piece Im writing Im working on about rape culture, a term, that as a man, I had to look up and figure out how it applied to me and to our culture. A good test to use, if youreally do need totalk about sexual behaviour perhaps in the abstract, with a teenager is, again, only to use language that fits people of any gender. Ensure sufficient resources 4. Take the word "bossy", which is mostly used to refer to opinionated girls or women who assert themselves. Mary Magdalen: now she was a very bad girl it took a man to make her good. Actually she was highly intelligent and accomplished beyond belief and her mind just raced forward and she didnt have time for bullshit because of her enormous workload. This person has a cordial relationship with all of the employees, which makes the workspace a positive place for everyone. I have been called a selfish career woman by my prudish, hyper-religious mother-in-law. I know loveable curmudgeons but Ive never heard of a loveable harridan. Respect and understanding is key. It was my fault that I only had one child as I was too much of a career woman and too selfish. Dont say shes had facial surgery unless you say he dyes his hair or has hair plugs. Race, gender, and sexual orientation are legally protected classes for a reason. Thank you, James, Pingback: 3.1 Further Research | Madison Hunt | Ihi Wehi, Bleat I was away from home with my 2 year old daughter for a few days and needed to distract her for a few minutes so found some kids TV. As we start to attribute characteristics as more male or more female this is where the challenges. It is something that women tend to do to ourselves, when we have achieved something some women tend to say Ive just done this or I was just about to get that to you or sorry I just thus in turn can diminish our reputation and put less value on the completed task. And, I definitely no, that we do get moody and emotional. Here are just a few words to be careful about: Princess (as a default term of address to a girlyou dont know well. If you consider yourself a misunderstood, independent woman, the following probably describes you. I truly find that setting expectations needs the fewest words possible, and that understanding comes from articles like this one. Does she not understand the importance of leading by example? Up until about 10 years ago I thought men were stronger, more logical, naturally apt at maths and the use of tools and other stereotypes. Old wives tale is one that annoys me. Ive added most of the suggestions to this list, though Ive omitted a great number of the direct insults that we can all recognise as sexist (even if some peoplethink they are acceptable for use.). And, yes, whilst I agree that people need to respect an individual and their life experience the fact that you then go on to say adhere to MY clear boundaries about how to treat ME with respect and consideration for MY feelings makes me wonder why the emphasis suddenly flips exclusively to YOU? Her Indoors Words like bossy, abrasive, strident, and aggressive are used to describe women's behaviors when they lead; words like emotional and irrational describe their behaviors when they. How would you describe male childminders, nurses, homemakers, parents? You complain about words like bubbly, working mother, etc. but there are words that are used to describe exclusively to men too. Before you comment on a womans tone or attitude, consider whether you need to at all. "One ex-housemate, who did not want to be named, described him as a man who was difficult to get along with, very bossy and imposing.". Or as theyre usually known, men? I fully accept there is gender bias, however, chipping away at it through healthy discussion is the key. Each adult is responsible for the care of children and older generation through taxes and this needs to be worthy of respect for those who are skilled at this . Equivalent to the medical term oophorectomy theres no judgement there, its just a descriptive term. Much food for thought to discuss in my positive relationships lesson with 14-15 year students next week. Stroppy. MILF/GILF (yuck!) There is a serious problem in the healthcare industry where female patients are assumed to be dramatic or hysterical about their symptoms (or their childrens) , and this can be very, very costly. She has also insinuated that I emasculate her son. Loved reading this! Ive been able to point out words that make my shoulders clench, but I havent always been able to explain why it bothers me or what to say differently. Great article I have said why isnt it incompetent penis for erectile dysfynction if it is incompetent cervix? It's unfortunately all too common for us to hear these words used to describe womenand only womenwhile other words, like driven or committed, are used to describe men. Spirited. I want to see feminism value the home and care of the vulnerable as it is fundamental to the health of the workplace. I dont hate men, and I dont see anything in this article that suggests I do. Dont pretend you know anything about her personal biochemistry. We can care about the language we use and still fight human rights abuses in Myanmarandchild marriage around the world. 5. People die, are refused healthcare, or suffer attack as a result of gender. Im no expert on plants but isnt the seed formed by the female plant after pollination has taken place. I think my first step is to share this on my (recently revived) and see how that does. And generally sneered at by men some of whom were also nurses I felt hurt and offended on behalf of my sisters but I didnt want to sound preachy so I said nothing. Sexism, intentional or not, gives people a whole new vocabulary. Stop using these words, eh? Women do get their periods and menstruate and also have curvy bodies. She points out that of the insults we use to discuss men and boys, some of them are actually words that INSULT WOMEN. Words used to describe women: Fat Skinny Skinny-fat DitzFlakeHoeWhore ButterfaceSlut BossyBitchy Words that define a woman:None of the above Thank you so much for putting what I felt and feel, into such elegant words! That is why i left my ex, he was constantly putting me down and maked macho comment. Yes, women at times can be bitchy. Some people are lovely, but I often hear it used by men and women who clearly have an issue with women who do not fit the lovely mould and reserve it for those women who meet the lovely criteria. Working mother is a tricky one. Aggressive. Subtly sexist words about women and girls. What is surprising is peoples inability to understand that. This term discourages women from taking on leadership roles, especially when men who exhibit the same "bossy" behaviors are lauded as leaders and rewarded with promotions. Id add calculating to this list. Period pain (when used by somebody in the insulting phrase Oh, its just period pain) Women are more emotional than men, that is just how it is. Baby mother/Baby momma Artist: Ashley Fairbanks, used with kind permission. That would be a different article. So here is my list so far ofdozens of sneakily sexist words to get us all thinking. Or Parliament. Here are some possible words to use to talk about a compassionate woman: Affectionate - She demonstrates kindness to others in a physical way. Youre just offended! Its commonplace to come across feminists inventing new, creative ways to feel offended, and its SO damaging. Maybe you could add a section on things we do ourselves without realising it. This one is newish, and seems to be used mostly by women applying it to themselves, and each other, without pejorative or patronising intention, but I reckon it can go either way. Let's move on to another term which is bitchy. someone who is bossy keeps telling other people what to do, in a way that annoys them, telling people what to do and refusing to listen to their opinions, deliberately involving yourself in other peoples lives and trying to influence the way that they behave, although you have no right to do this, an overbearing person always tries to control other peoples behaviour and ignores their opinions and feelings, trying to control other people and make them obey you, telling people what to do without caring what they think, frequently asking or telling someone to do something in a way that annoys them, involving yourself in situations that you have no right to be involved in, becoming involved in something in a way that is not welcome, always criticizing someone, or always telling them to do things, showing that you are used to being obeyed or expect to be obeyed, expecting other people to work very hard and carefully, confident and expecting to be obeyed and respected by people, informal giving advice or telling people how to behave, in a way that is annoying, stating what should happen, or what someone should do, informal extremely determined to get what you want, even if it annoys other people. I suppose they are just simply extremely fragile humans. (My mother recently overheard people commenting on the color of my toenail polish and promptly went over to my male colleague and asked him what color nail polish he was wearing as his shoes didnt allow her to see it. An unpleasant male boss is rarely known as bitchy, although gay men can face a similar plight to. Pingback: Eros and the irrelevance of #Me Too against Capitalist+Theist immorality The Eros Principle. As the #banbossy campaign points out, girls are twice as likely as boys to worry that leadership roles will make them seem bossy.. Also, my mother-in-law is an ex-nurse and still cannot understand that my inability to have given her grandchildren is directly related to my Endometriosis. Try to take all the judgment and emotion out of what youre talking about. And dont get me started on working mother. It is important to mature from 20th centuary concept of feminism and ways of dealing with it as it can harm and keep us stuck in unintentional models of patriarchy that is unfair to both men and women and the generations they are raising. Andie Fox at Blue Milk writes some of my favourite stuff on how womens care work is largely unacknowledged and unpaid. Little woman/lady You make me think really hard with posts like this. Like that is o.k. Might that not be somewhat sexist? A new way you can give me time to write this kind of article is through Patreon. 4. Excellent article. Cant find what youre looking for? Lezzer (or any implication that working females must be gay) document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Post was not sent - check your email addresses! And if my MOTHER-IN-LAW did one, well that would surely make her on a par with GOD! I started writing them down a little while ago. J.C. throwing one's weight about. Remember this pyramid? Show them emotions are good and keep doing what youre doing; then we may confront the issue that men hide their emotions and decrease the male suicide rate. Colours are for everyone. You speak about a society and nation, but dont identify your own. Heres their entry for strident, for example: strident used primarily to describe women (especially feminists) indiscriminately and discriminatingly, strident (as well as shrill) has become a stereotype that means little more than She makes me sick! Alternatives include: harsh, jarring, raucous, dissonant, discordant, unharmonious, clashing, sharp. So, do you have a woman who is dominating or harsh or strict, then you can call her bossy. When I was a little kid at infant school I was unkindly labelled spitfire because I had a strong personality and lots of energy, and I stood up for myself. 3. A special thank you to my very favourite satirical Twitter account, @manwhohasitall, some of whose gems have been turned into graphics on Facebook, reproduced below. As Sarah writes, . Integrate initiatives to broader strategy 3. Many thanks! Women have so much sexual and psychological power, most men are fucking terrified, just take a look at the red pill blogs, its thousands of scared little 40 year old boys. We can challenge and vent all we like but will it ever change? WHY do I get the impression that you are probably an embittered ex-nurse, or child carer, or housewife who feels somehow overlooked in their contribution to society? Assertive: a woman who is able to assert her own needs and wants. Not only can a woman be a 'bitch', but she can also be 'bitchy' (i.e. And no the Bible was written by GOD, cough coughshort men cough cough. Hey, thick ankles by the way. YES, a lot of these words are things we can attempt stop using, and the same goes for certain words towards men. I feel its my duty as the majority of the doctors who treat me are younger than me. Id rather embrace it and be open about it, not deny what I cant control. Have to go follow some of those links now. Because, if you did, you might understand that there are feminist schools of thought that study the division of labour, and which concentrate on understanding the value of things like work in the home, caring for children, and so forth. The fascinating story behind many people's favori Test your vocabulary with our 10-question quiz! SoI tried something new. Fierce. So bossy was a way to cast a woman as unfeminine and unnatural. Seems very gender-specific in current times. I appreciate both the article and comments. For When 'Lowdown Crook' Isn't Specific Enough. Interestingly, I can tell you for a FACT that if my FATHER, or my BROTHER, or my HUSBAND, or my BROTHER-IN-LAW did a Postgrad, we would never hear the last of how special and clever they were! Like another person suggested, I will start with Would you say that or use that about a man? If youve found this article thoughtful and useful, and would like to support me to write more stuff like this, head on over. iron-handed. I think this should be added to the list. antonyms for MOST RELEVANT modest Roget's 21st Century Thesaurus, Third Edition Copyright 2013 by the Philip Lief Group. Im glad you have had the pleasant experience of never being abused. Indeed, the adjective would appear to be gender. I emailed them immediately in disgust and of course had no reply. Amen praise god.. (Im going on record with my hunch that shes a she.). And doesntthe act of writing for all the world to see sound less brave and revolutionary when you slap a label on it like mummy blog? You see no point in mincing your words. Your email address will not be published. What I found while sitting on the beach was that I could size up a woman in 10 seconds flat. And lovely, when used to praise women for being an idea of perfect. I feel for the younger generation of women coming through and hope they are not subjected to the same level of sexism but alas, a lot of young men are still being brought up as being the privileged gender, expecting to be the main breadwinner and having a wife at home to raise the children and do all the housework. I am a gay man, and in the 15 years that I have been out, Ive never faced abuse. Why are these insults levelled at hard-working girls? This is a reaction to Sheryl Sandbergs current campaign to get people to stop using the word bossy when describing females. It is sad that you get so mixed up in the points you want to make, by talking about valuing people for themselves, but then wrongly accusing Feminists of not valuing the home. I think the key is to always search out the good people, that will respect you. We thought not. These basically mean disagreeing while female. And as I read somewhere recently, if you think men dont start drama, you need to pick up a history book. ), Insulting names for female body parts (makes me want to vomit if somebody talks about bodies this way): Baps Shrill. English has plenty of options. Some men may be absolutely useless at it. ), Tomboy (because a girl who likes to climb is no less a girl. 9. Heres a place to start if you need it: http://women.govt.nz/work-skills/income/gender-pay-gap. Benevolent - She makes decisions that benefit others more than herself. A British actress is the latest high profile woman slam . Fried egg tits Just a bit baffled, J.C. in what way do you imply that debate is masculine? Rather than make it a taboo topic and run away from it. See for instance how flowery the illustrations of Shakespeares use of the word are in this Pinterest search: And though she be but little she is fierce. 12. Queen bee Intense. 08 Approachable. Ass Think hard about why you use any of these, and whether your use of them dismantles or reinforces a sexist world. I was looking for language that propagates violence against women, and while this list isnt that exactly, it was still helpful. She even accused me of being a selfish career-woman! Words used to describe bossy and interfering people, Power, authority, influence and leadership, An area or organization that someone controls. Minger Perhaps you should have a look at the book The Dance Of Anger by Harriet Lerner, a book in which she describes gender role stereotyping, and the language that is sued to frame it. You may have been looking for words to describe a strong woman, beautiful woman, amazing woman, words to describe a beautiful woman's personality. I am sorry if this post offends. Once I got going it wasnt even thatdifficult. Not really. None of the above is new or surprising. While women (of child-bearing age) are discouraged from wearing a wedding ring to interviews because Well, shes just going to get pregnant and leave in a year, and the on-boarding process is expensive. (Forget about the health insurance!) Thank you for this article! Furthermore, I can tell you that I have NEVER come across a woman who earned a single cent less than me for doing the same job. By actively working to have folks see God as more than a male, deity who uses power over others, I have unintentionally claimed as feminine the characteristics of compassion, mutuality, empowerment, etc. Belongs to the 'ambitious', 'abrasive' and 'bossy' family. eh. And a few months ago a friend labelled me as bossy. 'malicious or snide'). My father also insulted my interest in things like ballet, theatre, museums and art galleries by variously calling these interests pretentious, snobby, stuck up and arty-farty. The Little Woman Men who use it seem to think its a compliment but Its disgusting and Ive never heard anyone talk about DILFs. Choose gender neutral words if you must refer to someones irritability or unreasonableness. I tell them what I need too in a respectful way. Theyre hiding behind saying others are being politically correct (thats a bad thing to them). Thank you for helping me to see through this new lens my own complicity in the life-limiting system of patriarchy. I have a thing about misogyny and putting women in their place language. Comments about my hair, make up, clothing, weight loss, nail polish are heard every Sunday. Therefore, theres no need to lie about this, because its a fact. Thank you! 2. There are huge and shocking implications for gender inequality worldwide. SCOLDING Id add conniving to the list. I am judged on physical appearance daily. ), Little old lady (I like to imagine that woman driving an ambulance in the World War II, or doing a familys laundry without electricity. Shes an economist and a brilliant writer. That word is just for women and it is nothing to be ashamed about as women put on weight for childbirth. The words bossy is typically used as an insult to get girls and women to shut up and sit down. more . Being calm and talking about how you feel and making it clear that you want to help them help you is important. The same happened to me. Wasnt this a bit sexist? This is a great article. SHE cannot even bear to MENTION THE FACT I AM DOING POSTGRADUTE STUDY! The list has gone from my seventeen to 122 words or phrases used against women. What gives? Man of the House. Free thesaurus definition of words used to describe bossy and interfering people from the Macmillan English Dictionary - a free English dictionary online with thesaurus and with pronunciation from Macmillan Education. There are certainly some here that I have not considered before and will update my list accordingly. So many of these cultures have a clear message in their language about women and behaviours toward them: females must be controlled and dominated. However, my family and my husbands are religious, and of the belief that women should be subservient to men. How we speak to and about kids is a larger topic, of course. A programme about a princess finished and the male presenter started talking about the Princess being bossy. EAT THAT! And when people start incorrectly accusing Feminists of devaluing the home or care of the vulnerable. Men can and ought to feel emotions, just as much as women, right? Why do you care? Person B: Sexual violence exists on a pyramid. I have variously been unfairly called difficult, disobedient, rebellious and challenging by both my parents, and teachers because I was an active girl, who asked a lot of detailed questions about subjects in class, had a passion for learning, wanted to study in greater depth than teachers allowed, and was always curious and inquisitive. Men are encouraged to wear wedding rings as to appear stable. Should we spend ourtime on something more important? A person can enjoy holding one baby without being clucky or hearing her clock tick. Finally, my husband, also trained as a Nurse, makes offensive and sexist comments to me when I am suffering from painful periods and this makes me feel unwell. AND baby weight is not an insult. I too have sexist parents and inlaws. What used to be a fine cause that helped secure the female vote and the females right to work has turned into something bitter and man-hating.
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